say what?

it is interesting, incredible almost how two (or three or four or seventy five) people can look at the same thing and get an entirely different experience out of it. how something that is the air and sun for one doesn't mean a thing to another, and how even in a conversation when talking about the same topic you still speak of two different things.

and sometimes you fall into the trap of thinking that people understand you, that they think or at least could think like you; that your experience of the world is somehow transferrable. it is a slippery slope to assume that what you say is what people hear, as the meanings and tones that words have are only yours. they might be similar enough to those of other people, at least close enough to make your point across; but if you think that the message you intended to deliver is done so without any alterations, you are often mistaken. 

and it's not merely a question of words. you pay attention to different things according to your preferences and interests which basically, in the end, renders parts of the surrounding world invisible to you. there are things you see as well as things you choose to look away from; and it all springs from the same place and that place is you; the being and identity and consciousness that is yours and yours alone. and it's not to say that we couldn't connect, or anything of the kind; it's just that we all connect in our own unique way, and sometimes the link between us is faulty. 

and it's an easy thing to forget, that people don't look at the world the same way you do and vice versa. easy to get annoyed when people don't respond the way you would want them to or act how you would expect them to; just like your own behaviour can at times irk someone else. and the thing is that no one is in the right or in the wrong here, we just see the world differently.

because that is what it really comes down to, in the end - how you see things. and from there on it is relatively straightforward, as in how you see things results - or rather, should result, in how you behave and what choices you make. in case the two - how you see and what you do - don't go hand in hand, a problem emerges; a threat of a misunderstanding of a more fundamental sort. because if you go against how you see things, if you can't justify or explain even to the one person who speaks your language why you do the things you do, how can you expect the rest of us to understand? it makes everything incomprehensible, both to yourself and to the world, and that is the situation where one is completely alone.